Philippine Trends: How to make a Gay-Straight Relationship Work?

To make things easier, I have come up with a few simple effective reminders for you to remember...

1. Straight men are usually impatient, so at least be patient enough without sacrificing your sanity TOO MUCH

> at least learn how to adjust and usually this is the hardest part in a gay-straight relationship. Adjusting means how to cope with your man's lifestyle without being abused financially and emotionally.
> do not over-tolerate your man by things which you think is too much or unnecessary. At least learn to reserve a little respect in yourself by showing him that your are one of a kind even though you are gay. This would make your man feel he is important to you and that you are sincere with him. Most man who digs into a gay-straight relationship are men who are deprived by their families or men who thinks that they are not given importance by people sorrounding them. This is your best chance to show him how much he is appreciated.
> learn to become his bestfriend. This is probably one of the most effective strategy in making your relationship work long term. I have a friend here in bacolod who has a boyfriend and for 15 years they have been together. Even though his boyfriend now has a family, they are still together and is in good terms with both the Family of the Guy and the wife.
> try to initiate bringing up the mood when youre together, this would make him comfortable and easy towards you. A positive mood is the secret to make the ambience more romantic and acceptable in a relationship.

2. Men were born heterogenous by nature, so at least learn to adapt in the UNIVERSAL RULE.

> Accept the fact that we are gays. And gays are not like women. We only have TWO, they have THREE. So be happy. At least you have a straight lover. Do not show them that you are insecure with other girls (Please do if he's flirting with other gays). This would make your man feel that you are worthy being his lover by being open-minded. If possible, go tease him with other girls, introduce him with your girlfriends.
> Feel free to ask him silly questions about his experiences with girls and please do not be exxagerrated. Do not associate yourself with his past experiences. This would offend him and that is a minus factor. BUT TAKE THIS FOR CONSIDERATION: Tell him that you have no problems with his flirting with other girls BUT, specify that you are the only gay for him!
> If so happened that you saw your guy with another gay, do not hesitate to approach him but please do not freak out, this will make him ashamed of your act. Instead, approach him nicely and ask whats going on. Be sensitive but not risking your dignity. Be proud. This would make your man guilty of the acts he did.
> Do not be jealous if your man tells you, "hey! I made out with a girl last night!". When he do this, simply ask, "how was it? I hope you had a wonderful night!". Be demure. Do not act like youre the wife. We are only extensions of their sexual and emotional pleasures. But still be happy. You are one of a kind.

3. When making out with your man, always remember these few simple things:

> Do not act like youre a drag queen. Be nice and elegant as if youre in a fashion show. Everything flows nicely.
> Do not rush yourself into his manhood, be assertive that you can give him a nice romantic pleasure. He will not forget you for the rest of his life. Most mistakes occur during a night of sexual pleasure. Be conservative, be objective, be an observant. Notice his reactions and identify his body weakness. A nice make-out is the key for a man to stick it out with you for a long time.
> An oral and anal isnt the only thing that makes a man satified towards you. Its how you carry the whole package. In my case, I havent tried the anal thing but still Ive become successful this whole 8 years.

4. Carry out your instincts effectively. This is one of the basic requirements in a successful relationship. So be happy. YOU ARE A GREAT LOVER!